Hello my dear readers. How is the fine weather treating you. Hope Y’all are in good health. Am happy to write your way again and i hope you are happy to read from me.
Today i will be brief, but direct. A little research coupled with my own hands-on real life examples has completely left me with just one question…..why do ladies in their early 20’s always want to rush into marriage??
Since i am no counsellor nor marriage therapist, my angle to the subject might be a bit undiercted which was why i resorted to opinnion sampling of expert in the field. So below is the summary of my research which is a blend of my thought and a couple of extra mind’s.
women who get hitched in their 20s, divorcing in the first couple of years has become a common pattern now, and most of them go through this horrifying phase even
before hitting 30. While the factors behind every relationship’s downfall are different, the underlying impetus behind marriage is similar
for some of the women. For women, who maintain a comfortable long- term relationship in their 20s, the next logical step is to get hitched, mainly because they find it convenient. For example,29 year-old accountant from New Jersey admitted to
marrying even though she didn’t feel ‘crazy love’, because was ‘content and secure instead’, imagine that!!!
Many times it is a previous relationship, which leaves a woman heartbroken and propels them to marry ‘Mr Wrong’. They say you never really get over your first love.
“I didn”t think I would ever fall in love again so I figured it didn’t matter who I married,” said a beautiful 26 year-old lady. Imagine that!!!!
There are many women who take the decision of getting married simply because they hope that marriage would change things. For instance, a 35 year-old travel correspondent thought that once she settled into newlywed
bliss, her ex-husband would be happier with his own life, will be able to hold a steady job and show her more affection. However, in due course Casey, who married at 24, found her ex husband “immature and insecure”. Imagine that !!!
Then there are instances when women hasten to tie the nuptial knot apparently because of low self-esteem. “I was a very insecure individual at that time. I was losing weight
from gastric bypass surgery and wasn’t happy with my appearance. He told me I couldn’t do any better and I believed him,” said a 30 year-old social worker.
There is not one main reason, which can be blamed for getting married. There are women who had a clue that their marriages were not meant to be but still went ahead with it
anyway. Most ladies also presume that immediately after the compulsory youth corps, the next thing in line is marriage. Yes i am quite aware of some over-aged ladies still in school and i wouldnt blame them for not waiting a second longer but my finger is pointed at ladies of 21, 22 even 23 years old rushing and gushing into the trade of marriage.
In my own honest opinnion, i think marriage is fast rising to the ‘overated’ chart just like ‘sex’ but i still believe in its sacredness. Now before you get me wrong, i dont detest a young lady getting married early to the man of her dreams….i just dont think the ‘rush effect’ was necessary. No one is concerned about your timing of marriage. You can still relax and shine your eyes.
I love to get married someday to the woman of dreams and i dont want the rush effect to be there. It gives the guy a sense of settlement and confidence. By the time you start pushing for it, he might start pulling away. Not minding the caustic effect of young age in marriage, it will still do both couple some good to come of age. You can be married and stil school but i tell you that aint joke. Be prepare for the worst.
So here you have my take on “why girls rush into marriage at a very tender age”….
Do well enough to supply answers to my troubled thoughts. I would love to know your perspective.